I can’t say that I got punished with a belt a lot. I was always a pretty smart child and the times I did get a spanking while bending over a piece of living room furniture caused the threat of a belt to forever be embedded into my memory.
Now, I know what child psychologists say, especially the ones without children. They claim that research suggests that spanking children causes them to have traits of aggression and does little to change their behavior.
Christian parents often struggle as they seek guidance from all the self help authors who claim to be well known. Do I spank or do I not? Of course we all know that the Bible says Proverbs 13:24, “He that spares the rod, hates his son.”
Maybe the philosophical question should be, “is a child with aggressive traits so bad after all? Let’s examine the evidence:
- We no longer want our children to be exposed to losing. Instead of a winner take all attitude, we only want “everybody to be a winner.” Where has that gotten us? In a society where we can no longer tell the men from the women. Masculinity is no longer celebrated unless it’s a trait of a female.
- Because we are sensitive and don’t want to harm anyone, our education system only teaches history with a political agenda. We don’t teach on Pearl Harbor, we don’t teach of the ferocious nature of the Japanese and how they made Isis look like a girl scout troop. No, we only teach on America dropping the atomic bomb! What have we gotten in return? A generation that no longer understands the sacrifice of farm boys and inner city kids who fought to make the world a safer place and a free society.
- In exchange for parenting we decided to let our children talk. It is now common place to hear a child back talk their parent in public and not show them the respect they deserve. What we get is a child in charge and a parent in disarray.
I could keep going and go on for days, but the reality is if you don’t have the point by now, you probably aren’t going to get it. The problems within our society aren’t political as some suggest. The problems are actually maternal and paternal.
Parent’s have traded the swift discipline that worked for thousands of years for a softer-gentler approach. Until we are willing to take off our belts and remind our children that we are the boss and every action has consequences, we’ll be left with a confused generation.
I think it’s time to take off your belt. If you don’t have one, let me know, I’d be more than happy for you to borrow mine!